Cooking Up Chaos – Week 40

Well, I made it to 40 weeks which means I’ve been pregnant for 2 weeks longer than I was with Luca. As I write this I’m actually 40+1 so “overdue” and I’m honestly quite surprised we have made it this far, for some reason I was really expecting him to come early. Not sure why but I just did.

I’m not bothered he hasn’t though, he will come when he’s ready and as of yet I don’t feel in much of a rush to evict him. Although I would like him to come sooner rather than later so we have as big a gap between his birthday and Christmas as possible. Also because I really want to be able to go to Luca’s Christmas concert as I’m gonna feel ALL the mum guilt if I can’t make it.

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Cooking Up Chaos – Week 35

Well, it’s been a while since I’ve written any bump updates.  In fact, it’s been a while since I wrote anything.  Whenever I have a spare 5 minutes it’s usually taken over by nesting or just resting (which I’m not very good at) and I’ve been overloaded with stuff that needs doing that the blog has had to take a back seat, because as much as I’d love to be able to do it all I can’t.

Anyway, I think my last update was at about 18 weeks, and then our gender reveal after that.  So it really has been a while, hasn’t it?  Bump is a very big bump now and I’ve got a lovely waddle going on too thanks to the SPD that cropped up just before the summer holidays.

Since I last posted I have had my antenatal care taken over by the Leeds HomeBirth Team, which is very exciting and we have done a hypnobirthing course with the ever so lovely Hannah from Reframing Birth.  The course was fascinating and has made me feel really confident going into whichever birth we end up having, although I have everything crossed it is my dream of a home birth.  I’m going to post all about the hypnobirthing course later on but it’s been worth every penny so if you’re pregnant and thinking about hypnobirthing I highly recommend checking out Hannah.

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Dressing the Bump in BooHoo Maternity

So you may remember that I posted about how pregnancy really makes me lose myself.  I lose lots of confidence when pregnant and think it’s really important to practice self-care and take the time to dress in a way you still feel like you.

Well, thanks to the lovely folks over at BooHoo, these past two weeks I’ve been dressing in clothes that really make me feel myself again and it really has helped me step out of the door feeling much happier and more confident.

When they offered to send me some bits from their maternity range I spent ages deliberating over what to choose.  I think with maternity wear it makes sense to get stuff that will last the whole way through your pregnancy.  Things that will transition through seasons and also that can be worn in a number of different ways.   The few bits that I decided on are quite simple but it’s the staples that really count I think.  Having wardrobe staples that are flexible and can be worn in many ways means you always have something to throw on, no matter what you are doing or the weather. Continue reading

Cooking Up Chaos – It’s a Boy

So last week we went for our 20-week scan.

It was in the afternoon so we dropped Luca off at my mum’s as he didn’t want to come with us and headed to the hospital.  I was feeling so nervous beforehand, the worry of getting in there and something being wrong was quite overwhelming but Ant did a really good job of distracting me and keeping me calm.

We went into the ultrasound room and straight away the lovely sonographer showed us our baby’s heartbeat.  I knew it must be fine as I’d been kicked to death that morning but after losing a baby there is always that niggle in the back of your mind.

Once the sonographer finished her little chat with us she asked if we wanted to know the gender of the baby and after one final check with Ant, I told her we did.   She told us she would do all the checks she needed to and then we would find out.  As she did a full-length check of the baby both me and Ant turned to each other and smiled.  Ant mouthed to me, “I think I might know what it is.”  I was pretty sure I did too.  Continue reading

Cooking Up Chaos – Week 18

So I’ve been pretty crap at posting updates weekly (shocker!). So I just thought I’d do them more haphazardly when there are actually things to report as not much seems to change from week to week apart from the odd small things.

Since I last posted though I’ve started to feel the baby move around and now it’s much more frequently. It’s such a lovely feeling and now I am also much less worried all the time as those little kicks throughout the day are very reassuring.  I’m still getting the weird poking out things and wonky belly as well.

I’ve also started with the joys of hip pain and heartburn since I last posted, BUT the headaches have gone.  You win some you lose some right?  I still can’t drink tea or coffee and the foods I’m averse to seems to be slowly growing.  I’m still not craving anything though.  Well, that’s a lie, I occasionally crave something but that something changes each time. Continue reading

Cooking Up Chaos – Week 14

Gosh, that’s it, the first trimester done.

I can’t believe we have made it to the second trimester.  Those first 10 weeks absolutely dragged and the past 4 have flown.

Grass Seed is now the size of a peach apparently.  Anyone else find that hard to imagine seeing as they aren’t the shape of said examples.  I find it really hard to comprehend but it’s nice to know they are getting bigger. And my tummy is definitely slowly getting bigger too.  This has been the week when I’ve really had to think about investing in some maternity clothes.

Week 14 has been a good one, I’m definitely starting to feel more human again and the bouts of morning sickness have eased off which I’m so thankful for.    I’m still getting really, really bad headaches though this week, I get at least two a day which is absolutely no fun at all.

I’m also already really uncomfortable.  My hips are absolutely killing me, and I can’t even walk at the same pace I used to walk at before which is also no fun.  I’m also very aware of my uterus.  I’m so uncomfortable most of the time and I’m not sure if it’s a second baby thing or if it’s because I’m physically a lot fitter this pregnancy, which I wasn’t with Luca.  So all my stomach muscles are really feeling the stretch and change that’s going on.  Because of that, I’ve decided I’m going to lay off the abdominal stuff for a bit in my PT sessions and see if it makes any difference.

Grass seed keeps doing those weird, trying to escape from my stomach, things and it’s happening more regularly as well now.  But when it’s not poking out in a big lump I can’t feel baby at all.  It’s very strange.  I’m going to mention it to my midwife when I see her next week.

I’ve also weirdly started to want to sleep on my right-hand side.  I usually sleep on my stomach or left-hand side but not anymore.  Apparently, it’s a sign that Grass Seed might be a girl, but I’m not sure I believe in any of the old wives tales about predicting gender.  They are fun to look at though and this little prediction makes Luca and Ant very happy as they both desperately want a girl.

 

More Chaos Coming Soon

It’s with great joy that I can announce we are expecting another bundle of chaos. After our miscarriage in September, we are over the moon to have a little rainbow baby nestled away in my ever expanding belly. I found out 2 days after my 30th birthday and it’s been the best present I could have asked for.

It’s not been an easy journey to get to this point. There have been months of trying and even a few missed periods that cruelly got my hopes up, but this time it’s for certain. I did multiple tests to make sure. Why do we do that??

I’m currently about 13 +3 weeks pregnant but Luca has known since I was about 7 weeks and has been gleefully telling pretty much everyone he encounters. We didn’t really want to tell Luca so soon but he’d been feeling a little neglected as I’m usually outside bouncing on his trampoline with him or wrestling him but obviously some of that had to come to an end. I feel like he needed to know and he’s been very attentive and caring towards me since we told him.

After our miscarriage, I was feeling quite anxious and so we went for an early reassurance scan at about 7 weeks. They found a perfect little blob in there, exactly in the right place and with a heart beating away as it should be. And although it has reassured me that everything is doing as it should be, I was still very much aware that we weren’t out of the danger zone just yet.

We used the scan picture from our early scan to tell Luca and told him that we think there might be a baby in there but we weren’t sure yet and we need to go back for another picture, later on, to see if it grows into a baby. Just in case.

Luca’s response was pretty brilliant.  He said, “I think it’s probably just a grass seed stuck there like Ronnie had in his foot”. Kids eh?  And as you can imagine it’s kind of stuck and so “bump” is now affectionately referred to as Grass Seed.

We went for our 12-week scan in the half term and were delighted to see a perfectly formed little baby wiggling away.  I was so relieved we didn’t need the get out clause.  And was so happy to be able to show Luca a picture of his baby brother or sister that actually resembled a baby this time.  And now I’m starting to feel much more relaxed and actually beginning to enjoy this pregnancy.  Although not the delightful pregnancy symptoms so much. I have really bad insomnia and feel like I have a constant hangover. But as I felt pretty good last time I’m taking all these crap bits as the best signs that everything really will be ok this time around.

So, for now, I’ll leave it there, and keep you updated regularly as we progress until we get to the point of announcing Grass Seeds safe arrival.  Fingers crossed.

Going au naturel

Not long after Luca was born I realised he had sensitive skin and eczema. I tried everything advised to try on babies with eczema and nothing seemed to make any difference at all.  As he got older he began to scratch himself to the point where he would bleed.  As a new mum seeing him tear his delicate little skin open through itching so much broke my heart.  By this point, I had tried all the things that were prescribed to him such as E45 and Oilatum, yet absolutely nothing worked.

One day we were contacted and asked if we would like to review some baby skin care products by Weleda and I thought why not. I mean what did we have to lose right?  I couldn’t be happier that I made that choice and we haven’t looked back since. Weleda saved my precious babies skin and I will be eternally grateful to them for that.

Since that miracle week (yes it only took a week) when Luca healed I really started to think. When I looked at the ingredients on the products prescribed to help his skin they were just loaded full of chemical after chemical, no wonder it never helped.  I remember my Grandma telling me years ago that you should never put anything on your skin that we wouldn’t put into your mouth and suddenly it all added up.  Everything we put on our skin is absorbed into our body, so of course, it makes sense to be careful about the things we do use.  Nowadays I really think about the things I use on Luca’s skin and for a long time now he has only been using products that are 100% natural.  In fact, he has only been using Weleda.

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Darlo Baby Clothes

When the lovely Chloe from baby wear brand Darlo contacted me to ask if we would like to review some of their clothes I was very excited, their products are so bright and cheery whilst being very chic and simple that I would have loved to dress Luca up in them.  Unfortunately though my (not so) little man is it bit too old for them now so instead I had to choose someone to gift them too.  

I introduced you all to the lovely little Jax in this post recently, and because he’s just so cute (hence why he makes me so broody) I thought he would be the perfect little model for them.  So after a quick chat and a coffee we got him all dressed up and ready for his close ups.

I will leave it to his wonderful mummy, Jade to let you know what she thought of the clothes. 



Today me and Jax, my five month old bambino, got the chance to play dress up and what fun it was! When Franki asked if we were coming for coffee and a play date I jumped at the chance to go talk to another mummy and see my mate Luca.  Little did I realise what a morning it was going to be. After Jax’s morning porridge, Franki gave me a gift, nicely wrapped in white tissue paper  from the company Darlo.  Inside was a gorgeous matching set of vest and joggers in stunning colours, the combination of orange and green were so different it was refreshing on the eyes. Most baby items are in the same boring colours but these were such beautiful colours I couldn’t wait to put them on Jax. The softness of the clothes, which are made with organic cotton, made me feel like Jax was wearing the finest of silks. 




When I read the information and tags, the company Darlo, have a really special concept behind the clothes, each product purchased will feed a child in India for a week. Thinking about this made me realise, we buy new clothes for our baby’s so frequently without giving it any thought, when one outfit could feed children in India for a week! This made me realise how lucky we are to be able to put Jax in an outfit that is comfy for him, colourful and unique whilst also helping others in the world too. 


From now on every friend with a newborn baby or upcoming baby shower will definitely be receiving some of these products from me. 





As I’m sure you’ll all agree Jax looks very dapper in his new threads and as Jade said all the new babies I know will be gifted some of these gorgeous clothes.  When we have another baby I’ll definitely be buying some too, I just love the bright colours, much more appealing than white or plain boring clothes and equally perfect for either boy or girl I reckon.  Not only are they so colourful but they also help towards such a good cause.  If we can make our little people look stylish whilst doing a good deed for those less fortunate,  then I’m not sure there is more of a reason to buy these clothes.  Oh and it’s free delivery on all UK orders.

You can find the gorgeous clothes from Darlo on their website here.

Thank you again to Darlo for gifting us these clothes and for running a business that is helping the world to be a better place for children in need. 

You can also find Jade’s brand spanking new blog JadeTuesday here, go show her some love people, she is a frigging fabulous lady!

Broody, me?

I’ve said numerous times that baby number two is not on the cards for us yet.  We would love another small person to add to our family but it’s just not going to happen anytime soon. First and foremost we simply don’t have enough space in our two bed apartment for another person, let alone a baby and all the paraphernalia that they come with.  Secondly I just haven’t felt like I’m at that place yet. I’ve had no feelings of broodiness, Luca quite simply fills me with joy every single minute I’m with him and I love the time we spend together and honestly don’t want to miss out on a moment of it.  He’s at a wonderful age and I’m enjoying it.  I don’t feel like I need another just yet. But…. 


A few days before Christmas, our latest addition to the family arrived.  A little pink bundle of joy called Elsie who takes the niece count up to 4!! We met her when she was just 12 days old and I was overwhelmed with broodiness. Uh oh! 

I put it down to a few things, mostly though, I put it down to this little lady taking her time to come.  She has been about 7 years in the making for my sister-in-law and her partner and so she feels a little bit special.  It could even have been because she was looking adorable in all her pink girly clothes when I’m surrounded by cars and pirates and general masculinity too (not something that’s ever bothered me before, I’m a bit of a tom boy at heart).  



It also doesn’t help that Luca adores babies.. The look in his eyes when he peeked into her pram for the first time and seeing him gently stroke her hair and talking softly to her was just a precious moment to behold.  


I was quite happy putting it down to those things and was just about over my bout of broodiness when my friend came round with her little boy, Jax. 


A little older than Elsie he is more alert and aware.  Luca was absolutely in his element.  He brought Jax lots of his toys to look at and chatted away to him.  Then when I got him on my knee for a cuddle, Luca went and brought some books over and we all had a big snuggle, whilst I read Zog and Room on the Broom to them both.  It felt lovely and just so right having one on each side.  



Luca then made me think my heart was literally about to burst.  He looked over at Jax who was having a little dribble and without saying a word wiped his mouth with his bib before turning back around to look at the book.  It was the sweetest little act and so genuine, he really is such a sweet, affectionate, caring little boy and maybe if we did have another he could be my little helper. 

It seems these feelings of broodiness may be true feelings, not just momentary, and my womb and ovaries are starting to cry out for another little person to cook.  I do think maybe it’s getting close to the right time for us as Luca is shedding his last traces of baby-ness now and will soon be starting nursery and then school freeing up some time for me to look after and lavish attention on another child.


This though, this just makes my ovaries scream.




Suits him don’t you think? 


Maybe baby no2 isn’t as far away as we thought! 

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