Luca is 15 months old now and my absolute world. I know all parents feel the same way about their children and it is impossible to put into words how they make you feel but I do feel all that, I love him more than anything, if I look at him for long enough and really think about how fast this first year has gone, how quickly he seems to have grown and how amazing he is and how proud I am of him, I could literally cry (happy tears, obviously!). He makes me ridiculously happy and I am so glad I am his mum.
Recently people have started to ask me when we will be having another baby and other new mums I have spoken to have told me how their ovaries are screaming at them to procreate again and some of them already have. It got me to thinking. Yes, I do want another baby, in fact I’ll probably have a couple more all being well. Ask any of my friends and they will all tell you I am very maternal, I love small people, hence why I work with children and when I see a small baby I do get that broody feeling. I cannot imagine being a family of 3, I feel like we definitely need a couple more to add to the brood. But not yet!
I am 100% not ready for another baby yet. I adore Luca and relish every minute we get to spend together doing fun things and laughing together. I work 3 full days a week and then for 3 hours on a Saturday morning which means the days we do have together are usually jam packed.
Wednesdays vary but we usually end up out and about somewhere, be it at a friends having play dates or taking Nona’s dog for a walk with Daddy. Fridays we go to swimming lessons which we absolutely love. Saturdays are usually spent at Nona & Papa’s house with the rest of the family and Sundays are the same or we go out for the day. We are always busy busy bees and Luca is constantly lavished with attention and this is exactly the way I like it. I am enjoying every minute with him as I am all too aware that it goes so quickly and he is changing so fast.
If we decided to have No2 in the near future, I would be at home with Luca and a new baby. That would mean less attention for Luca for a start but also it would me No2 would not be given the same start to life as Luca has had. I couldn’t take them both swimming once a week, I couldn’t just grab the changing bag and head out for the day, I couldn’t spend lazy days watching films, eating chocolate and cuddling. However, if we wait for Luca to start school before No2 arrives that frees up valuable time to spend lavishing attention on No2, gives me chance to nap with the new baby in the early months whilst Luca is at school and generally would give me a little breathing space, something that would be none existent with two small people in the house. I am all for making my life easier, which I cannot imagine it would be with two under 2!! I am fully aware that No2 will never have the exact same amount of sole attention as Luca has had but it will be more than if we have them close together.
By no means am I criticising anyone for having children close together, it is completely up to each individual family and what works for them and suits their lifestyle. For us we want some time and space.
So no, No2 is not on the cards just yet. Luca is more than enough for the time being and I am more than happy giving him my undivided time, energy and attention and I’m quite sure he likes it that way. So for now we are 3, and a very happy 3 we be!