I am NOT ready for baby No2 yet!

 Luca is 15 months old now and my absolute world. I know all parents feel the same way about their children and it is impossible to put into words how they make you feel but I do feel all that, I love him more than anything, if I look at him for long enough and really think about how fast this first year has gone, how quickly he seems to have grown and how amazing he is and how proud I am of him, I could literally cry (happy tears, obviously!).  He makes me ridiculously happy and I am so glad I am his mum. 

Recently people have started to ask me when we will be having another baby and other new mums I have spoken to have told me how their ovaries are screaming at them to procreate again and some of them already have.  It got me to thinking.  Yes, I do want another baby, in fact I’ll probably have a couple more all being well.  Ask any of my friends and they will all tell you I am very maternal, I love small people, hence why I work with children and when I see a small baby I do get that broody feeling.  I cannot imagine being a family of 3, I feel like we definitely need a couple more to add to the brood. But not yet! 

I am 100% not ready for another baby yet. I adore Luca and relish every minute we get to spend together doing fun things and laughing together.  I work 3 full days a week and then for 3 hours on a Saturday morning which means the days we do have together are usually jam packed. 
Wednesdays vary but we usually end up out and about somewhere, be it at a friends having play dates or taking Nona’s dog for a walk with Daddy.  Fridays we go to swimming lessons which we absolutely love. Saturdays are usually spent at Nona & Papa’s house with the rest of the family and Sundays are the same or we go out for the day.  We are always busy busy bees and Luca is constantly lavished with attention and this is exactly the way I like it.  I am enjoying every minute with him as I am all too aware that it goes so quickly and he is changing so fast.

If we decided to have No2 in the near future, I would be at home with Luca and a new baby.  That would mean less attention for Luca for a start but also it would me No2 would not be given the same start to life as Luca has had.  I couldn’t take them both swimming once a week, I couldn’t just grab the changing bag and head out for the day, I couldn’t spend lazy days watching films, eating chocolate and cuddling. However, if we wait for Luca to start school before No2 arrives that frees up valuable time to spend lavishing attention on No2, gives me chance to nap with the new baby in the early months whilst Luca is at school and generally would give me a little breathing space, something that would be none existent with two small people in the house.  I am all for making my life easier, which I cannot imagine it would be with two under 2!! I am fully aware that No2 will never have the exact same amount of sole attention as Luca has had but it will be more than if we have them close together.  

By no means am I criticising anyone for having children close together, it is completely up to each individual family and what works for them and suits their lifestyle.  For us we want some time and space.

So no, No2 is not on the cards just yet. Luca is more than enough for the time being and I am more than happy giving him my undivided time, energy and attention and I’m quite sure he likes it that way. So for now we are 3, and a very happy 3 we be! 

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7 thoughts on “I am NOT ready for baby No2 yet!

  1. 3yearsandhome says:

    There's absolutely no rush if that's not what you want. I had to have mine close together for medical reasons but it's feels right. There's just two years and three months between them – it's exhausting but it works. I was lucky in so much as for the first six months after the second was born, the eldest still went to nursery for three days a week as that's what he'd always done while I worked. It gave me an amazing amount of time with the new baby and he was really happy to be playing with his friends. You take your time and enjoy Luca. Having two is a whirlwind!

  2. Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

    I love this post. And there definitely is no rush at all. We wanted a nice age gap between our girls, but fate had other plans and we conceived the first month we started trying. Now I wouldn't change our age gap for anything as my girls get on so well, but it is really tiring and hard work. I think whatever age gap you have works for your family- there was ten years between me and my sister and we are the best of friends.
    It is lovely to enjoy your boy as much as you can, and when the time comes that you are ready, you will enjoy your siblings together. xx

    • Franki says:

      Thank you! I'm the same, there are 7yrs between my eldest brother & me and we get along great. I can't wait for us to expand as a family, I'm really looking forward to it, but just not yet! Xx

  3. PhotoPuddle says:

    There are three and a half years between my two. It's the gap I always wanted and I think it works really well.

  4. PhotoPuddle says:

    There are three and a half years between my two which is what I wanted and I think it is a perfect age gap. Different age gaps work for different people. Do what feels right for you.

  5. Honest Mum says:

    Love this, there is no rush whatsoever, you are so young and have so much going on with your work-2 kids is full on, more like 22, amazing but crazy busy and although I wouldn't change it for the world, a bigger age gap might have helped in many ways. Enjoy that little man and when you are ready you'll know. Never EVER feel any pressure! People often ask me when I'm having my third. How I laugh. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

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