Due to my immense feelings of mummy guilt I’ve had recently I have tried to make the days I have with Luca as fun filled and special as possible. Screw the housework, quality time with my child is where it’s at!
We have been to some lovely places, and had some great days out. I’m not gonna lie, I was feeling rather proud of myself and my mummy skills until…
“Mummy, I don’t want to go in the car. I want to stay at home and play.” Luca informed me as we were getting ready for another day trip out.
Talk about a moment of revelation. To begin with I felt guilty that I had been dragging him out because I was trying to make myself feel better and ease my own conscience. But that soon faded. I mean come on, he’s one lucky monkey that we have the option to take him places and treat him as much as we do.
Instead I listened and learnt.
That day we stayed at home and played ALL day. I did no house work and spent all my time lavishing Luca with my undivided attention. Since then I make sure I ask him what HE wants to do, not what I think he wants. Yes, we still go out to lovely places but we spend much more time at home just playing together. It’s been such a nice thing to discover that all he wants to do is play with me. That all he really wants is me, not fancy days out, just his mummy and his toys.
Since spending our time at home together it’s really allowed me to see things I may have missed. I’ve witnessed his imagination flourish in the last few weeks. He’s really growing up now and with that his imagination is growing and we play some truly wonderful games together, all led by Luca. I’d have missed out on that if we were spending more time at local attractions.
We also now have a little routine too, usually involving a sofa snuggle around lunch time in front of a film. He constantly asks questions throughout the films too. Who’s that Mummy? What are they doing? Why are they doing that? What does he have on his hands? Why is that purple?
It can get a little frustrating but I always answer him as best I can (I’m not always sure of some of the answers to be fair, kids films are weird) as I know it all sets him up for learning and aids in growing that wonderful imagination of his and expanding his knowledge bank.
Housework is also now our thing. He likes to help with hoovering, washing clothes, dusting and cleaning out the rabbits. It’s also a little more fun for me to do these chores with Luca in tow too, though not necessarily as quick.
He’s now taken on board the role as sous chef too and helps make lunch with me or prepare our tea.
I’m so glad he decided to tell me he didn’t want to go out that day as actually, I think he’s right, we do have more fun at home together.
Who knew eh?